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10 Everyday Ways to Support Your Child’s Talking (No Flashcards Required)

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You don’t need worksheets, apps, or a perfect routine to nurture your child’s communication. The best language-building happens in ordinary moments (think snack time, the car, the bath) through warm, unhurried connection. Here are ten neuro-affirming ways to help, all built on following your child rather than pushing them.

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One big thing first: the goal is connection, not compliance. We’re not trying to get your child to perform words on demand or make eye contact they find uncomfortable. We’re making it easier and more joyful for them to share what’s already inside.

Follow their lead.

Talk about whatever your child is already interested in. Interest is the engine of learning, and joining their focus beats redirecting it.

Narrate the day.

Put simple words to what’s happening: “Warm water. Splash!” Your child absorbs far more than they hand back.

Add one word.

When they say “dog,” you say “big dog” or “dog run.” Gently model the next step instead of correcting.

Honor every message.

Point, sign, sound, a look, a device: all of it is communication. Respond to it as real, and your child learns that communicating works.

Pause and wait.

Ask, then give a slow count of five. Silence isn’t empty, it’s the space your child needs to take a turn.

Get face to face.

Come down to their level so you can see and share what delights them. Presence matters more than eye contact.

Offer choices.

“Apple or banana?” gives your child real power to communicate, and a reason to.

Sing and repeat.

Songs, rhymes, and favorite lines are predictable and fun, which makes them easy to join in on.

Read together your way.

No need to finish the book or read every word. Name pictures, follow their pointing, let them turn pages.

Protect the joy.

Skip drills and demands. A child who feels safe and enjoyed communicates more than one who feels tested.

What to skip

You can let go of pressure tactics, like withholding a toy until they “say the word,” correcting pronunciation, or making your child repeat things to perform for others. These tend to raise stress and lower the very communication we’re hoping for. Warmth works better than pressure, every time.

Small moments, repeated with love, add up. You’re already your child’s favorite person to talk to, and that’s the most powerful tool there is.

Have questions about your child’s communication? Reach out for a warm, no-pressure conversation, we meet every child exactly where they are.

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This article is for general information and isn’t a substitute for individualized guidance from a licensed speech-language pathologist who knows your child.

Sholeh Shahinfar min

SHOLEH SHAHINFAR

M.A. CCC-SLP, RYT

Sholeh Shahinfar is the Founder of Valued Voices, a licensed Speech Language Pathologist, Child Communication Specialist and Certified Oral Motor Therapist. She is passionate about uplifting children’s voices in the world and inspiring self-expression. In her free time, Sholeh embraces a vegan lifestyle, loves going to the ocean, exploring nature with her pup Kobe, practicing yoga, traveling, and spending time with her loved ones. 

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Do Late Talkers Catch Up

Do Late Talkers Catch Up? What the Research Really Says

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It’s one of the most anxious late-night searches a parent can make: will my quiet child talk? Here’s an honest, hopeful answer grounded in what we actually know.

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The reassuring headline

Research consistently finds that more than half of late talkers catch up to their peers by the time they reach school age, often without formal therapy. Many children are simply on a later timeline for spoken words while developing beautifully in every other way.

The honest part

We can’t reliably predict in advance which specific children will catch up on their own and which will keep needing support. That uncertainty is exactly why a check-in can be helpful, not to sound an alarm, but to replace guessing with information, and to make sure support is there if it’s wanted.

Why “catch up” isn’t the only thing that matters

Here’s a gentle reframe. A child’s worth was never tied to hitting words “on time,” and some children are naturally more wired to communicate in ways beyond typical speech. If your child turns out to be autistic or otherwise neurodivergent, the goal isn’t to make them indistinguishable from other kids, it’s to make sure they have real, reliable ways to be understood and to feel good about how they communicate.

So rather than only asking “will they be normal?”, we can ask a kinder question: does my child have the tools and support to express themselves and connect? That’s something we can always work toward, whatever their path.

What actually helps in the meantime

  • Presence, everyday interactions, and following your child’s lead and treating all their communication as valid

  • Reducing pressure to perform, which lowers stress and tends to increase communication

  • An evaluation if you’d like clarity, extra strategies, or simply peace of mind
  • Access to gestures, signs, or AAC as needed, so your child never has to wait for words to be heard

The bottom line

Odds are genuinely good that your late talker will find their voice. And if they take a different route, that route is valid too. Either way, your warm attention and support are exactly what your child needs, and you’re already giving it.

Have questions about your child’s communication? Reach out for a warm, no-pressure conversation, we meet every child exactly where they are.

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This article is for general information and isn’t a substitute for individualized guidance from a licensed speech-language pathologist who knows your child.

Sholeh Shahinfar min

SHOLEH SHAHINFAR

M.A. CCC-SLP, RYT

Sholeh Shahinfar is the Founder of Valued Voices, a licensed Speech Language Pathologist, Child Communication Specialist and Certified Oral Motor Therapist. She is passionate about uplifting children’s voices in the world and inspiring self-expression. In her free time, Sholeh embraces a vegan lifestyle, loves going to the ocean, exploring nature with her pup Kobe, practicing yoga, traveling, and spending time with her loved ones. 

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Late Talker or Gestalt Language Processor

Late Talker or Gestalt Language Processor?

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Waiting for your child’s first words can be an anxious experience. When those milestones seem delayed, it is entirely natural for parents to feel concerned. You might find yourself comparing your child to peers or frantically searching the internet for answers.

Language development is not a straight line. Children acquire speech in different ways, and understanding how your child learns is the first step in helping them communicate. Two common paths you might encounter are “late talkers” and “gestalt language processors.”

While both might present as a speech delay initially, the underlying way these children process and learn language is entirely different. By recognizing your child’s unique communication style, you can tailor your approach to best support their development, reduce frustration, and foster a connected, regulating environment.

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What is a Late Talker?

A “late talker” is typically a toddler between 18 and 30 months old who has good understanding of language and typical development in other areas (like motor and social skills) but has a limited spoken vocabulary.

Most late talkers are “analytic language processors.” This means they learn language from the bottom up. They start with single words, combine those into two-word phrases, and eventually build full sentences. They simply start this process a little later than their peers.

Characteristics of a Late Talker

Strong receptive language

They understand what you are saying, can follow simple directions, and point to objects when named.

Use of non-verbal communication

They frequently use gestures, pointing, and facial expressions to get their needs met.

Single-word focus

When they do speak, they use single words rather than word combinations and sentences.

Typical play skills

They engage in appropriate pretend play and interact socially.

What is a Gestalt Language Processor?

Gestalt language processing is an entirely different way of learning language. Instead of starting with single words, gestalt language processors (GLPs) learn language in “chunks” or whole phrases.

To a GLP, a phrase like “Let’s go to the park” is processed as one single unit of meaning, much like a single word. They often use intonation and melody to communicate before they use understandable words. Over time, they break these large chunks down into smaller parts and eventually isolate single words to create their own unique sentences.

Signs of a Gestalt Language Processor

  • Echolalia: They frequently repeat phrases they hear from parents, TV shows, or songs. This is their way of communicating a feeling or need.
  • Musical intonation: Their babbling sounds incredibly conversational, often mimicking the exact rhythm and pitch of adult speech without clear articulation.
  • Delayed single words: They might struggle to label single objects or answer simple “what is that?” questions.
  • Situational learning: They associate specific phrases with the emotional context in which they first heard them. For example, they might say “To infinity and beyond!” every time they feel excited.

Key Differences: Analytic vs. Gestalt Language Development

Understanding the core difference between these two styles comes down to the building blocks of language.

Analytic language processors are building a house brick by brick. They start with the foundation (single words), add walls (two-word phrases), and finally put on the roof (complex sentences).

Gestalt language processors start with the whole house already built. They absorb complete phrases and scripts. Their developmental journey involves taking that house apart to understand the individual bricks, so they can eventually build a new house of their own design.

If you try to teach a gestalt language processor using analytic methods, like asking them to repeat flashcards of single words, they will often become frustrated and dysregulated. Their brains simply do not process language that way.

How to Support Your Child Based on Their Learning Style

Once you identify how your child learns, you can adapt your home environment to support them effectively.

Supporting a Late Talker

  • Follow their lead: Play with what they want to play with. When your child is interested, they are more likely to communicate.
  • Model single words: Use simple, clear language. If they are playing with a car, say “Car! Go car.”
  • Remove the pressure: Avoid demanding that they “say” a word. Instead, pause and give them the opportunity to speak. If they do not, fill in the word for them without showing disappointment.
  • Praise all communication: Celebrate gestures, eye contact, and vocalizations.

Read more in our Early Intervention Guidebook.

Supporting a Gestalt Language Processor

  • Acknowledge their scripts: When your child repeats a script, smile, nod, and repeat it back to them. Validate that they are communicating.
  • Follow their lead: Play with what they want to play with. When your child is interested, they are more likely to communicate.
  • Be a detective: Try to figure out the emotional meaning behind their scripts. If they quote a cartoon character who is hungry every time it’s time for lunch, they are telling you they want to eat.
  • Model mitigable gestalts: Instead of focusing on single words, model useful, everyday phrases from a first-person perspective. Use phrases like “I need help,” “Let’s go,” or “I like that.”
  • Embrace the music: Sing songs and use exaggerated, melodic intonation when you speak with them.

Read more in our Neurodiversity-Affirming Guidebook and our NLA/GLP Model. Play. Grow. Guidebook.

Navigating a child’s speech and language journey can feel overwhelming, especially when faced with regulation challenges or overlapping diagnoses like Childhood Apraxia of Speech (check out the ebook and activity guide). Please remember that both analytic and gestalt language processing are completely valid, natural ways to develop human language.

By observing your child closely and adjusting your communication style to match theirs, you can build a strong foundation of trust and connection.

Every child’s path to communication is unique, and understanding whether your child is a late talker or a gestalt language processor is the first step in supporting them with empathy and intention. By recognizing their individual strengths and using strategies that align with their language learning style, you foster both confidence and meaningful connection.

Remember to observe your child closely, celebrate all forms of communication, and adapt your approach as they grow and change. You are your child’s greatest advocate and partner on this journey.

If you’d like to dive deeper or need step-by-step guidance, feel free to book a complimentary consultation with me. Together, we can help your child’s voice shine in their own time and way!

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SHOLEH SHAHINFAR

M.A. CCC-SLP, RYT

Sholeh Shahinfar is the Founder of Valued Voices, a licensed Speech Language Pathologist, Child Communication Specialist and Certified Oral Motor Therapist. She is passionate about uplifting children’s voices in the world and inspiring self-expression. In her free time, Sholeh embraces a vegan lifestyle, loves going to the ocean, exploring nature with her pup Kobe, practicing yoga, traveling, and spending time with her loved ones. 

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Why Bad Behavior Might Actually Be a Sensory Need

Why “Bad Behavior” Might Actually Be a Sensory Need

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A child sits in a speech therapy room, refusing to look at the picture cards on the table. They might slide out of their chair, hum loudly, or cover their ears. To an outside observer, this looks like classic non-compliance. The child is simply refusing to do the work.

As a Speech-Language Pathologist (SLP), I see this scenario almost every day. My perspective on these moments has shifted entirely over the years. When a child seems to be ignoring instructions or acting out, we have to look deeper. Communication requires a calm, organized and regulated nervous system.

We often mistake a child’s physiological stress response for a behavioral problem. The truth is that many children experience the world with profound sensory differences. Their nervous systems process sounds, lights, textures, and movements differently than neurotypical adults expect. Understanding these sensory differences completely transforms how we support communication.

When we recognize that a child is overwhelmed rather than defiant, we can change the environment instead of changing the child. This shift in mindset helps us build trust and create a space where true learning can happen.

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Why Sensory Regulation is the Foundation for Communication

Sensory processing and emotional regulation are the first things a child’s brain needs to manage before they can focus, learn, or communicate. If a child’s sensory system is overwhelmed or out of balance, their brain may switch into “survival mode,” what we call fight, flight, or freeze.

When this happens, a child isn’t able to pay attention to what you’re saying or use their words, even if they want to. For language and communication to grow, a child needs to feel safe and regulated. As SLPs, we have learned that supporting regulation comes first, once a child feels calm and organized in their body, communication skills have the chance to develop naturally.

When a child’s sensory system is overwhelmed or out of balance, their brain goes into “survival mode.” In this state, it becomes extremely hard for them to pay attention, listen, or use language, even if they know what they want to say. All their energy is focused on coping with the discomfort or stress their body is feeling, not on talking or learning. This is why a child who is dysregulated may not seem to understand what you’re saying or struggle to respond with words, even if they can do these things at other times.

As SLPs, our main focus is to help children communicate, but we know this can only happen when a child feels calm and safe in their body. If a child is stressed or overwhelmed by sensory input, their brain isn’t able to listen or use words, no matter how hard they try. Our first step should always be to support regulation, helping a child feel settled and comfortable, so that their communication skills can start to grow naturally.

Reframing “Behavior”: It’s Not Compliance, It’s Sensory Needs

There is a popular saying in the neurodiversity community: kids do well if they can. Children naturally want to connect, play, and succeed. When they struggle to do so, there is an underlying barrier.

Our society often views an uncooperative child through the lens of compliance. We ask how we can make the child follow directions. We implement reward charts or take away privileges. These behavioral approaches fail because they address the symptom instead of the root cause.

If a child is hiding under a table, they might be overwhelmed by the fluorescent lights buzzing overhead. If a child is constantly crashing into furniture, their body might be desperately seeking proprioceptive input to feel grounded. These actions serve a purpose. They are the child’s attempt to self-regulate in an environment that feels intensely uncomfortable. Reframing these actions as sensory needs allows us to respond with empathy and practical support.

Common Sensory Differences and Their Impact on Learning

Every child possesses a unique sensory profile. Some children are hyper-reactive, meaning they feel sensory input very intensely. Others are hypo-reactivity, meaning they need a massive amount of input to register it at all. These differences drastically impact a child’s ability to participate in a classroom or therapy session.

Auditory processing differences frequently disrupt learning. A hyper-reactive child might hear the hum of a refrigerator as a deafening roar. Background noise makes it impossible for them to focus on a teacher’s voice.

Tactile differences also play a huge role. A child might find the tag on their shirt physically painful. They might refuse to participate in messy play activities like finger painting. This discomfort consumes their mental energy, leaving nothing left for language tasks.

We must also consider the hidden senses, like proprioception (body awareness) and the vestibular system (balance and movement). Children who are hypo-reactive in these areas might struggle to sit still. They need to rock, spin, or chew on items to keep their nervous system alert. If we force them to sit with “quiet hands,” we actively strip away their coping mechanisms.

If you’re looking for more ways to support your child in and out of the classroom, check out our Neurodiveristy affirming ebook.

Practical Strategies to Support Sensory Regulation

Supporting sensory needs does not mean abandoning all structure or goals. It means adapting our approach so the child can access those goals. Here are several practical strategies you can implement to support regulation.

Create a Calming Environment

Look around your space and identify potential sensory triggers. Dim the harsh overhead lights and use natural lighting or soft lamps instead. Minimize visual clutter on the walls, which can easily overwhelm a child. Offer noise-reducing headphones for children who struggle with auditory input. A quiet, visually simple space automatically lowers anxiety.

Incorporate Movement

Many children need movement to think. Allow for flexible seating options like therapy balls, wobble stools, or standing desks. Integrate “heavy work” into your routine. Pushing a heavy cart, carrying a stack of books, or doing wall pushes provides deep proprioceptive input. This type of input is highly organizing and calming for the nervous system.

Offer Predictability and Choices

Sensory differences often make the world feel chaotic and unpredictable. You can reduce this anxiety by providing clear visual schedules and frontloading with information. When a child knows exactly what is coming next, they feel safe. Give the child meaningful choices throughout the activity. Letting them choose which book to read or which chair to sit in provides a crucial sense of control.

For more ways to support your child’s regulation, check out our Sensory Regulation Workbook.

The traditional model of speech therapy and education focused heavily on making children conform to neurotypical standards. We now know that this approach causes harm. A neuro-affirming approach respects each unique child and their beautiful way of being. It recognizes that sensory differences are a natural variation of the human experience, not a defect to be fixed.

As professionals and caregivers, our job is to become detectives. We need to look past the surface behavior and ask what the child’s nervous system is trying to tell us.

If you suspect a child is struggling with sensory processing, observe their environment carefully. Note what happens right before a “breakdown.” Most importantly, collaborate with an Occupational Therapist (OT). OTs are the true experts in sensory processing and can provide a wealth of tailored strategies. By prioritizing regulation over compliance, we empower children to communicate their authentic selves.

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SHOLEH SHAHINFAR

M.A. CCC-SLP, RYT

Sholeh Shahinfar is the Founder of Valued Voices, a licensed Speech Language Pathologist, Child Communication Specialist and Certified Oral Motor Therapist. She is passionate about uplifting children’s voices in the world and inspiring self-expression. In her free time, Sholeh embraces a vegan lifestyle, loves going to the ocean, exploring nature with her pup Kobe, practicing yoga, traveling, and spending time with her loved ones. 

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Speech Delays vs Language Delays

Speech Delays vs. Language Delays: What’s the Difference and Why Does It Matter?

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As parents, caregivers, and advocates for our children, it’s natural to want to understand their unique communication journey. When concerns arise about how a child is communicating, terms like “speech delay” and “language delay” often come up. While these terms are sometimes used interchangeably, they describe different aspects of communication.

In this blog, we’ll explore the difference between speech and language delays, why understanding this distinction matters, and how to approach these differences in a way that celebrates neurodiversity and supports your child’s individual strengths.

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What Is Speech?

Speech refers to the physical act of producing sounds. It involves the coordination of muscles in the mouth, tongue, lips, and vocal cords to create the sounds that make up words.

A speech delay occurs when a child has difficulty with:

  • Articulation: Producing specific sounds correctly (e.g., saying “wabbit” instead of “rabbit” or “tup” instead of “cup”).
  • Fluency: Speaking smoothly without interruptions like stuttering.
  • Voice: Using an appropriate pitch, volume, or tone.

Children with speech delays may know exactly what they want to say but struggle to physically produce the sounds or words.

What Is Language?

Language is about understanding and using words to communicate meaning. It includes both:

Receptive Language

Understanding what others say (e.g., following directions, understanding questions).

Expressive Language

Using words, sentences, and gestures to express thoughts, needs, and ideas.

 A language delay occurs when a child has difficulty with:

  • Understanding words, sentences, or concepts.
  • Combining words into sentences.
  • Using language to interact socially or share ideas.

Children with language delays may have clear speech but struggle to understand or use words effectively.

Why Does the Difference Matter?

Understanding whether your child is experiencing a speech delay, a language delay, or both is important because it helps guide the type of support they may need. For example:

  • A child with a speech delay might benefit from therapy focused on articulation or motor planning.
  • A child with a language delay might need support in building vocabulary, understanding concepts, or forming sentences.

 By identifying the specific area of need, we can create a tailored approach that supports your child’s communication journey.

Increasing Communication Through Connection

It’s important to approach speech and language differences through a lens of connection. This means recognizing that communication looks different for every child and celebrating the unique ways they express themselves.

Here are some key principles to keep in mind:

Focus on Connection, Not Perfection

The goal is not to “fix” your child’s communication but to help them connect with others in a way that feels authentic to them.

Honor Their Communication Style

Whether your child uses spoken words, gestures, sign language, or an AAC (augmentative and alternative communication) device, all forms of communication are valid and valuable.

Celebrate Strengths

Every child has strengths, whether it’s a rich imagination, a love of storytelling, or a knack for problem-solving. Build on these strengths to support their communication.

Avoid Comparisons

Every child develops at their own pace. Comparing your child to others can create unnecessary pressure. Instead, focus on their individual progress.

How to Support Your Child

If you’re concerned about your child’s speech or language development, here are some steps you can take:

  1. Observe and Celebrate: Take note of how your child communicates, what they enjoy talking about, and the ways they express themselves. Celebrate their efforts and progress.
  2. Seek Professional Guidance: A Speech-Language Pathologist (SLP) can help assess your child’s communication skills and provide strategies to support their growth.
  3. Create a Language-Rich Environment:
    • Talk with your child throughout the day, describing what you’re doing or what they are doing.
    • Read books together and discuss the pictures or story.
    • Sing songs, play games, and engage in activities that encourage communication.
  4. Use Visual Supports: Visual aids like pictures, charts, or gestures can help children understand and express themselves more easily.
  5. Advocate for Your Child: If your child is in school, work with their teachers and support team to ensure they have the accommodations and resources they need to thrive.

Speech and language delays are not deficits, they are differences in how a child communicates and processes the world around them. By understanding the distinction between speech and language, and by approaching these differences with a connection mindset, we can create a supportive environment where every child feels valued and empowered to express themselves.

If you have concerns about your child’s communication or want to learn more about how to support them, don’t hesitate to book a consult with me. Together, we can celebrate your child’s unique voice and help them thrive in their own way.

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SHOLEH SHAHINFAR

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Sholeh Shahinfar is the Founder of Valued Voices, a licensed Speech Language Pathologist, Child Communication Specialist and Certified Oral Motor Therapist. She is passionate about uplifting children’s voices in the world and inspiring self-expression. In her free time, Sholeh embraces a vegan lifestyle, loves going to the ocean, exploring nature with her pup Kobe, practicing yoga, traveling, and spending time with her loved ones. 

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The Importance of the Articulation Hierarchy and Practice at Home

The Importance of the Articulation Hierarchy and Practice at Home

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As parents, we all want to help our children communicate clearly and confidently. For children working on their speech sounds, the articulation hierarchy is a powerful tool that guides their progress step by step. At Valued Voices, we use this structured approach to help children master their speech sounds in a way that feels fun and empowering, so they stay motivated and excited to learn.

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What Is the Articulation Hierarchy?

The articulation hierarchy is a step-by-step process that helps children learn to produce specific speech sounds correctly. It starts with the simplest tasks: like saying a sound by itself, and gradually moves to more complex tasks, like using the sound in full conversations.

Here’s how the hierarchy works:

  1. Isolation: Practicing the target sound all by itself (e.g., saying “s” without any other sounds).
  2. Syllables: Adding the sound to simple syllables (e.g., “sa,” “so,” “su”).
  3. Words: Using the sound in single words. This step also focuses on the position of the sound, whether it’s at the beginning (e.g., “sun”), middle (e.g., “basket”), or end (e.g., “bus”) of the word.
  4. Phrases: Practicing the sound in short phrases (e.g., “a sunny day”), while continuing to target the position of the sounds.
  5. Sentences: Using the sound in full sentences while still paying attention to its position.
  6. Structured Conversation: Practicing the sound in guided conversations where the child knows they’re working on it.
  7. Spontaneous Speech: Using the sound naturally in everyday conversations without reminders.

At each level, we carefully target the position of the sound (beginning, middle, or end) to ensure the child can use it correctly in all contexts. This step-by-step approach ensures that your child builds a strong foundation before moving on to more complex tasks.

Every child is unique, and their progress through the articulation hierarchy depends on where they’re starting. Some children may need to spend more time mastering a sound in isolation, while others might be ready to practice it in sentences or conversations. At Valued Voices, we tailor our approach to meet your child where they are, ensuring they feel supported and successful at every step.

Why Is the Articulation Hierarchy Important?

Builds Confidence

Starting with simpler tasks allows children to experience success early on, which boosts their confidence and motivation.

Promotes Mastery

Each level ensures that your child has fully mastered the sound in one context before moving on to the next.

Provides Structure

The hierarchy gives a clear plan for progress, making the process more organized and effective.

Encourages Generalization

By gradually increasing the complexity of tasks, the hierarchy helps children use their new skills in real-life situations.

Making Practice Fun and Empowering

At Valued Voices, we believe that learning should be fun! We incorporate games, activities, and creative exercises into therapy sessions to keep your child engaged and excited about practicing their sounds. When children feel empowered and enjoy the process, they’re more likely to stay motivated and make meaningful progress.

While therapy sessions are essential, consistent practice at home is just as important. Home practice reinforces the skills your child learns in therapy and helps them progress more quickly.

To make home practice easier, we recommend using resources like our Articulation Activity Book. It’s filled with fun, interactive exercises designed to target your child’s target sounds at various levels of the hierarchy. From word games to sentence-building activities, it’s a great way to keep practice engaging and productive. If you are looking for support with /s/ or /r/, we have guidebooks for those too that pair great with our Articulation Activity Book.

Tips for Successful Home Practice

Keep It Short and Fun: Aim for 5-10 minutes of practice a day to keep your child engaged without overwhelming them.

Focus on the Right Level: Practice at the level your child is currently working on in therapy, whether it’s isolation, words, or sentences.

Incorporate Practice Into Daily Routines: Use everyday moments, like mealtime or playtime, to practice target sounds naturally.

Celebrate Progress: Acknowledge your child’s efforts and successes, no matter how small. Positive reinforcement goes a long way!

The articulation hierarchy is a powerful tool for helping children improve their speech clarity, and when paired with consistent practice at home, it can lead to incredible progress. At Valued Voices, we’re here to support your child every step of the way, making the process fun, empowering, and tailored to their unique needs. Book your complimentary consult here.

If you’re looking for a way to support your child’s practice at home, be sure to check out our Articulation Activity Book. Together, we can help your child find their voice and communicate with confidence!

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SHOLEH SHAHINFAR

M.A. CCC-SLP, RYT

Sholeh Shahinfar is the Founder of Valued Voices, a licensed Speech Language Pathologist, Child Communication Specialist and Certified Oral Motor Therapist. She is passionate about uplifting children’s voices in the world and inspiring self-expression. In her free time, Sholeh embraces a vegan lifestyle, loves going to the ocean, exploring nature with her pup Kobe, practicing yoga, traveling, and spending time with her loved ones. 

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Tackling the R Sound

Conquering the Tricky /r/ Sound

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As a Speech-Language Pathologist, I hear a familiar question from parents almost every single week. They want to know why their child struggles to pronounce words like “rabbit,” “car,” or “red.” Instead of a crisp /r/, the sound often comes out sounding like a /w/ or a vowel.

If you find yourself navigating this exact journey with your child or student, you are definitely not alone! The /r/ sound is notoriously one of the last and most difficult speech sounds for children to acquire. It causes headaches for kids, parents, and even seasoned therapists. It often requires months of dedicated, strategic practice to master.

Understanding why this specific sound causes so much trouble is the very first step toward helping a child succeed. In this blog, we will explore why the /r/ sound is so elusive, break down the complex motor coordination required to produce it, and share practical insights on how to support your child’s speech development effectively.

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Why the /r/ Sound is Uniquely Challenging

Most speech sounds give us easy, obvious visual clues. When a child learns to say /b/, /p/, or /m/, they can look in a mirror and watch their lips press together. They can easily copy what a therapist, teacher, or parent is doing right in front of them. The visual feedback makes the learning process straightforward and intuitive.

The /r/ sound is entirely different and can be almost invisible, making it even more to difficult to describe!

The Invisible /r/ & Motor Coordination 

Because the /r/ sound is produced entirely inside the mouth, it remains practically invisible to the naked eye. A child cannot simply look at an adult’s face to understand where their tongue should go. They only see the lips slightly apart, which gives them absolutely no information about what the tongue, jaw, or vocal cords are doing behind the scenes. Without that visual roadmap, children often guess where to place their tongue, leading to the common “wabbit” substitution.

Beyond being invisible, the /r/ sound requires an incredibly high level of complex motor coordination. Producing a clear /r/ demands that different parts of the tongue do different things at the exact same time. The back of the tongue must widen and elevate to touch the back teeth, while the root of the tongue retracts. Meanwhile, the vocal cords vibrate, and the lips maintain a neutral or slightly rounded position.

Asking a young child to coordinate all these microscopic muscle movements simultaneously is like asking them to pat their head, rub their belly, and hop on one foot while reciting the alphabet. It takes immense precision, strong muscle memory, and significant practice to get it right consistently.

Different Ways to Produce the /r/ Sound

To make matters even more complicated, there is no single “correct” way to shape the tongue for the /r/ sound. Speech-language pathologists generally recognize two primary methods for producing a clear, accurate /r/. Finding out which method works best for an individual child involves trial, error, and expert guidance.

The Bunched /r/ Method

The bunched /r/ is the most common way native English speakers produce the sound. In this position, the tongue pulls back and bunches up like a mountain in the middle of the mouth. The sides of the tongue elevate to press firmly against the insides of the upper back teeth. The tongue tip drops down and points toward the bottom of the mouth. This creates tension in the back of the mouth, which helps produce the resonant /r/ quality we expect to hear.

The Retroflex /r/ Method

The retroflex /r/ is a different way to produce the /r/ sound. For a retroflex /r/, the tongue tip curls up and points backward toward the roof of the mouth, just behind the alveolar ridge (the bumpy part behind the upper front teeth). The back of the tongue still needs to widen to stabilize against the back molars. Some children find this curled position easier to visualize and physically achieve.

Relying on the Wait and See Approach

A major misconception surrounding the /r/ sound is that a child will simply “grow out of it” if given enough time. While some children do eventually correct their pronunciation independently, many require targeted, professional intervention.

Waiting too long can actually allow the incorrect tongue placement to become a deeply ingrained habit. When a child spends years saying /w/ instead of /r/, their brain strengthens that specific neural pathway. Breaking a habit that has been practiced thousands of times over several years makes therapy much harder down the road. Early intervention and targeted strategies always yield the best results.

Another frequent hurdle is relying on the wrong cues. Telling a child to “just try harder” or “say it like this” rarely works. Because they cannot see the correct tongue position, simply repeating the word louder or slower will only frustrate them. They need specialized auditory, tactile, and visual cues to guide their mouth into the right posture. If they do not know how to physically move their tongue into the right spot, no amount of repeating the word “run” will magically fix the error.

Proven Strategies for Eliciting the /r/ Sound

Success in articulation therapy heavily relies on having the right tools. As an SLP, I have seen firsthand how a slight adjustment in teaching methods can lead to a massive breakthrough. You need a structured approach that breaks the sound down into manageable, bite-sized steps.

Before a child can produce the sound, they must be able to hear it accurately. Auditory discrimination involves training the child’s ears to hear the distinct difference between their incorrect production (like “wake”) and the correct target word (“rake”). SLPs often use listening games where the child acts as the “teacher,” giving a thumbs up or thumbs down when they hear the adult model the sound correctly or incorrectly.

SLPs use tools like tongue depressors, lollipops, or even dental flossers to provide tactile cues. Touching the sides of the child’s tongue and then touching their upper back molars gives them a physical sensation to match. We also use hand gestures to mimic the shape of the tongue, helping the child visualize what needs to happen internally.

Once a child successfully produces the /r/ sound by itself, the journey continues. We must systematically train the brain to use that new motor pattern in connected speech.

Making Practice Fun and Engaging

Therapy progresses through a specific hierarchy. We start with the sound in isolation, move to syllables, progress to simple words, advance to short phrases, and finally tackle full sentences and conversational speech. Children need engaging, repetitive practice that doesn’t feel like a chore. Incorporating board games, silly challenges, and high-interest reading materials keeps their motivation high while they build their new muscle memory.

Mastering this sound does not have to be a stressful, exhausting guessing game. If you want a clear, step-by-step approach to achieving perfect pronunciation, you need strategies tested and proven in the clinic.

You need a comprehensive roadmap that breaks down exactly how to elicit the sound, which cues work best, and how to practice effectively at home. That is exactly why I put together a comprehensive resource tailored specifically for this exact challenge.

If you are ready to stop feeling stuck and want to help your child or student finally achieve that confident, clear /r/ sound, you need the right tools in your hands.

Get your copy of our detailed, easy-to-follow guide here.

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SHOLEH SHAHINFAR

M.A. CCC-SLP, RYT

Sholeh Shahinfar is the Founder of Valued Voices, a licensed Speech Language Pathologist, Child Communication Specialist and Certified Oral Motor Therapist. She is passionate about uplifting children’s voices in the world and inspiring self-expression. In her free time, Sholeh embraces a vegan lifestyle, loves going to the ocean, exploring nature with her pup Kobe, practicing yoga, traveling, and spending time with her loved ones. 

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AAC: Empowering Every Child’s Unique Voice

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For many families, watching a child struggle with speech or language can be overwhelming and leave parents searching for support. Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC) is more than a tool, it’s a bridge, helping every child share their unique thoughts and build deep connections with those around them. Curious about how AAC can empower your child and change your family’s journey? Discover more in our AAC Parent Guidebook.

Every child has a vibrant inner world. They all possess a fundamental human right to share that world with others. Verbal speech is simply one method of doing so. When speaking is difficult, Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC) steps in to ensure those vital connections happen. 

By exploring AAC, you are opening a new door for your child. You are giving them the tools they need to share their personality, make choices, and connect deeply with the people around them.

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Understanding AAC: A Bridge for Communication

AAC includes all the ways we communicate without speaking, like gestures, signs, or using devices and apps. For children who find speaking challenging, AAC can open doors, helping them share their ideas, connect with loved ones, and express who they are. Want to learn more about how AAC can empower your child? Our AAC Parent Guidebook is designed to guide you every step of the way.

For children who are non-speaking, minimally speaking, or whose speech is difficult to understand, AAC provides a dedicated system to express themselves. These systems are generally broken down into two main categories:

Unaided AAC

These methods do not require any physical equipment. They rely entirely on the person’s body. Examples include facial expressions, body language, gestures, and sign language.

Aided AAC

These methods require an external tool. Aided AAC ranges from “low-tech” options like communication boards, pen and paper, and picture exchange systems, to “high-tech” options like dedicated speech-generating devices and tablet applications.

AAC serves as a bridge. It connects your child’s thoughts to the outside world, giving them a reliable way to interact with peers, teachers, and family members.

Common Myths vs. Facts About AAC

It’s normal to feel unsure when AAC is first mentioned, there are a lot of myths out there, like “AAC will stop my child from talking” or “you have to wait until a certain age to start.” In reality, AAC supports speech and language development, can be introduced at any age, and comes in many forms. Want honest answers and practical guidance? Our AAC Parent Guidebook breaks down the facts and empowers you to make the best choices for your child.

Myth: Using AAC will stop my child from learning to speak.

Fact: Research consistently shows that AAC does not hinder verbal speech. In fact, using an alternative communication system often encourages speech and language development. By removing the intense pressure and frustration of trying to speak verbally, children can relax and practice their language skills in a supportive way.

Myth: A child must be a certain age to use a device.

Fact: There are no prerequisite skills or minimum age requirements for starting AAC. Introducing communication tools early gives young children a head start on language development.

Myth: High-tech devices are the only valid form of AAC.

Fact: The best communication system is the one that works for the individual child. Many children thrive using a combination of low-tech boards, sign language, and high-tech devices depending on the environment and their energy levels.

Embracing and Validating All Communication

We must truly embrace, recognize and appreciate that every child communicates in their own way. All forms of communication, whether spoken, signed, gestured, or through AAC, are valid and valuable. By honoring your child’s preferred way of connecting, you build trust and confidence. If you’re ready to empower your child’s voice and deepen your understanding, our AAC Parent Guidebook is here to support your journey.

Through a neurodiversity-affirming lens, we recognize that verbal speech is not inherently superior to other forms of expression. All communication is completely valid. When a child leads you by the hand to the refrigerator, they are communicating. When a child uses an iPad app to request a favorite toy, they are communicating. When a child flaps their hands in excitement, they are communicating.

Validating these different methods builds trust. It shows your child that you respect their natural way of being and that you are willing to meet them exactly where they are.

How AAC Empowers Your Child and Your Family

Beyond simply requesting food or a bathroom break, AAC gives children autonomy. They can express opinions, tell jokes, share a story about their day, and form meaningful friendships. This autonomy builds self-esteem and confidence.

For parents and siblings, AAC removes the guesswork. You spend less time trying to decipher what your child needs and more time simply enjoying their company. It restores the joyful, everyday interactions that form the foundation of family life.

Essential Resources: The AAC Parent Guidebook

Navigating the world of communication devices, funding options, and therapy sessions can feel overwhelming. You do not have to figure it all out on your own.

To support families taking their first steps, we have put together a comprehensive resource. The AAC Parent Guidebook walks you through everything from selecting the right system to modeling language at home. It includes practical tips, activities, and advice. This guidebook is designed to give you the confidence you need to advocate for your child’s communication rights.

Celebrating Your Child’s Communication Journey

Finding the right communication system takes patience, practice, and a lot of trial and error. There will be challenging days, but there will also be moments of profound joy when your child successfully shares a new thought for the very first time.

By embracing AAC, you are doing something incredible. You are validating your child’s identity and ensuring that their unique, beautiful voice is heard loud and clear. Keep modeling, keep encouraging, and remember that every small step forward is worth celebrating.

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Sholeh Shahinfar is the Founder of Valued Voices, a licensed Speech Language Pathologist, Child Communication Specialist and Certified Oral Motor Therapist. She is passionate about uplifting children’s voices in the world and inspiring self-expression. In her free time, Sholeh embraces a vegan lifestyle, loves going to the ocean, exploring nature with her pup Kobe, practicing yoga, traveling, and spending time with her loved ones. 

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Understanding Directions: Supporting Children with Speech, Language, and Motor Planning Challenges

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As a Speech-Language Pathologist (SLP), one of the most common areas I work on with children is following directions. While it may seem simple to say, “First get your shoes, then get your lunch,” this type of direction actually requires a complex set of skills that many children may struggle with.

Understanding the different types of directions, why they’re important, and how to support your child at home and in school can make a big difference in their communication and overall success.

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Why Are Directions Important?

Directions are a cornerstone of communication and daily life. They help children understand expectations, complete tasks, and engage in social and academic activities. For children with speech and language delays or motor planning issues, following directions can feel overwhelming because it requires:

  • Listening Skills: Paying attention to the speaker and processing what is being said.
  • Language Comprehension: Understanding the vocabulary, grammar, and concepts within the direction.
  • Memory: Retaining the information long enough to act on it.
  • Sequencing: Understanding the order of steps and completing them in the correct sequence.
  • Motor Planning: Physically coordinating the actions required to carry out the direction.

When a child struggles with any of these areas, following directions can feel like a monumental task. That’s why breaking down the types of directions and practicing them in a supportive way is so important.

Types of Directions, Typical Ages, and Their Nuances

Here’s a breakdown of the different types of directions, when children typically acquire these skills, and how to support your child:

1. One-Step Directions

Typical Age of Acquisition: Around 1-2 years old.

These are the simplest types of directions, such as “Clap your hands” or “Sit down.” While they may seem easy, they still require:

  • Understanding the vocabulary (e.g., “clap,” “sit”).
  • Processing the request.
  • Executing the action.

How to Practice at Home:

  • Use clear, simple language.
  • Pair verbal directions with gestures or visual cues if needed.
  • Practice during play (e.g., “Roll the ball,” “Jump up”).

2. Two-Step Directions

Typical Age of Acquisition: Around 2.5-3 years old.

These involve completing two actions in sequence, such as “First get your shoes, then get your lunch.” While this might seem straightforward, it requires:

  • Understanding temporal concepts like “first” and “then.”
  • Remembering both steps.
  • Sequencing the actions correctly.

How to Practice at Home:

  • Start with related actions (e.g., “Pick up your book and put it on the table”).
  • Use gestural cues, like pointing or visual supports, like pictures or a checklist, to reinforce the steps.
  • Gradually increase complexity and fade your prompting as your child becomes more confident.

3. Conditional Directions

Typical Age of Acquisition: Around 4-5 years old.

These include “if/then” statements, such as “If you finish your homework, then you can play outside.” These directions require:

  • Understanding cause-and-effect relationships.
  • Processing the condition and the outcome.

How to Practice at Home:

  • Use real-life scenarios (e.g., “If you put your toys away, then we can read a book”).
  • Keep the language simple and consistent.
  • Reinforce the connection between the condition and the reward.

4. Spatial Directions

Typical Age of Acquisition: Around 3-4 years old.

These involve understanding spatial concepts like “on,” “under,” “next to,” or “behind.” For example, “Put the book on the table” requires:

  • Understanding the spatial term (“on”).
  • Identifying the correct location.

How to Practice at Home:

  • Use toys or household items to practice (e.g., “Put the teddy bear under the chair”).
  • Pair verbal directions with gestures or demonstrations.
  • Play games like “Simon Says” to make it fun.

5. Complex or Multi-Step Directions

Typical Age of Acquisition: Around 5-7 years old.

These involve three or more steps, such as “Get your backpack, put on your shoes, and wait by the door.” These directions require:

  • Advanced memory and sequencing skills.
  • Understanding multiple concepts and actions.

How to Practice at Home:

  • Break the direction into smaller parts and practice each step individually.
  • Use visual aids, like a chart or checklist, to help your child keep track.
  • Gradually increase the number of steps as your child improves.

Supporting Your Child at School

Advocating for your child’s needs at school is essential. Here are some tips to ensure they get the support they need:

  1. Communicate with Teachers: Share information about your child’s areas of need and strategies that work at home.
  2. Request Accommodations: Ask for visual supports, extra time to process directions, or simplified language in the classroom. If your child is on an IEP or 504 Plan, we can help you by making some recommendations
  3. Collaborate with the SLP & OT: If your child receives speech or occupational therapy at school or elsewhere, work with your child’s team to align strategies between home and other environments.
  4. Encourage Self-Advocacy: Teach your child to ask for clarification if they don’t understand a direction.

Making Practice Fun and Engaging

At Valued Voices, we believe that learning should be fun! Here are some ways to make practicing directions enjoyable for your child:

  • Play Games: Games like “Simon Says,” “Red Light, Green Light,” or scavenger hunts are great for practicing directions.
  • Use Everyday Routines: Incorporate directions into daily activities, like cooking (“Get the spoon and stir the batter”) or cleaning up (“Put the blocks in the bin and close the lid”).
  • Celebrate Success: Praise your child for their efforts and progress, no matter how small.

Following directions is a foundational skill that impacts every aspect of a child’s life, from communication to academics to social interactions. By understanding the nuances of different types of directions, their typical age of acquisition, and practicing them in a supportive, fun way, you can help your child build confidence and succeed!

If you have concerns about your child’s ability to follow directions, don’t hesitate to reach out to us for guidance. Together, we can empower your child to thrive!

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SHOLEH SHAHINFAR

M.A. CCC-SLP, RYT

Sholeh Shahinfar is the Founder of Valued Voices, a licensed Speech Language Pathologist, Child Communication Specialist and Certified Oral Motor Therapist. She is passionate about uplifting children’s voices in the world and inspiring self-expression. In her free time, Sholeh embraces a vegan lifestyle, loves going to the ocean, exploring nature with her pup Kobe, practicing yoga, traveling, and spending time with her loved ones. 

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Social Skills for Toddlers: Helping Your Child Build Connections

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Watching your little one learn to communicate is one of the most beautiful journeys you’ll experience together. Long before they speak in full sentences, children use gestures, facial expressions, and play to connect with the people they love. These precious early interactions form the foundation of social communication.

As a Speech-Language Pathologist, I’m often asked by families how they can best support these developing skills at home. Here’s what I always share: you don’t need expensive toys or specialized equipment to help your child flourish. Your everyday routines are filled with countless opportunities to nurture social skills. Let me show you how you can naturally encourage your toddler to connect, interact, and play in ways that honor their unique way of being.

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Why Peer Interaction Matters

Toddlers are incredible observers. When they’re around other children, they’re constantly watching, listening, and learning. Around age two, you’ll likely notice your child engaging in parallel play, which is playing alongside another child rather than directly with them.

This stage is completely normal and wonderfully beneficial for your child’s development. Parallel play helps toddlers become comfortable sharing space and materials while giving them the perfect opportunity to observe how peers use language and gestures. Something as simple as arranging a casual playdate or visiting your neighborhood park gives your little one the chance to absorb these valuable social lessons.

Responding to Names and Eye Contact: What Families Should Know

Many parents worry when their toddler doesn’t consistently look up when their name is called. While responding to a name is an important developmental milestone, toddlers are also naturally drawn to exploration and can become deeply focused.

If your child is absorbed in their play, try gently joining their world. Get down on the floor so you’re at their eye level. Instead of repeating their name, use an exciting sound or animated voice to capture their attention. You might hold a favorite toy right next to your face to naturally guide their gaze toward yours. Remember that eye contact should feel natural and joyful for your child, never forced.

Practical Strategies for Teaching Turn-Taking and Sharing

Sharing can be a challenging concept for toddlers to understand. At this age, they’re just beginning to make sense of ownership. Instead of expecting them to share, let’s introduce turn-taking through playful games that feel natural.

Rolling a ball back and forth across your living room floor is one of the most effective ways to teach this skill. As you play together, narrate the action by saying, “My turn,” and then, “Your turn.” You can practice this same approach with puzzles or stacking blocks. By giving your child this vocabulary, you’re empowering them with the words they’ll need to navigate sharing situations as they grow.

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When to Consult an SLP

Every child develops at their own beautiful pace, but early intervention can make a meaningful difference when support is needed. I always encourage families to trust their instincts.

Consider reaching out to an SLP if your toddler consistently doesn’t respond to their name by 12 to 15 months, rarely uses gestures like pointing or waving by 18 months, or shows little interest in connecting with you or other children. An SLP can lovingly assess your child’s unique needs and provide personalized strategies to support their growth.

Supporting Your Child’s Journey

Building social communication skills takes time, patience, and lots of loving repetition. You’re already doing the most important work simply by talking, playing, and engaging with your toddler every day. Celebrate those precious small victories: a shared smile, a successful turn-taking game, or any moment of connection. If you ever feel uncertain or concerned about your child’s progress, please reach out to us at Valued Voices or your local SLP for guidance and support. We’re here to walk alongside your family!

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Sholeh Shahinfar is the Founder of Valued Voices, a licensed Speech Language Pathologist, Child Communication Specialist and Certified Oral Motor Therapist. She is passionate about uplifting children’s voices in the world and inspiring self-expression. In her free time, Sholeh embraces a vegan lifestyle, loves going to the ocean, exploring nature with her pup Kobe, practicing yoga, traveling, and spending time with her loved ones. 

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